The Joyful Attitude of a YES Person

Do You Struggle to have the Attitude of a Yes Person?

Are you finding it hard to say yes? Before anyone can complete a question…is the little yet powerful two-letter word “no” already on the tip of your tongue?  More often than not, do you hear yourself saying no?  Why?  What’s behind the instant “no” that’s keeping you from being a “yes” person?

YES is a Powerful and Important Word

My pastor is currently teaching a series on the 7 most powerful words, and you guessed it…YES is one of them.  Some of the most important questions you will answer in life need a yes:

  • Will you make wise decisions? 
  • Will you stick to your priorities?
  • Will you accept Christ as your Savior?
  • Will you use your life to serve God and love people?
  • Will you spend your life growing in the grace and knowledge of God?
  • Will you honor your commitments?

I felt totally conviction when I realized my go to word is “no”.  It doesn’t matter what is being asked or by whom…I just gravitate toward “no”.  It was time to ask myself why?  Why do I carry a “no” in my heart?

I may change my mind after considering what is being asked, but it is the attitude of “no” that concerns me.

Differences Between the Attitude a Yes and No Person

Speaking from experience, being a “no” person is no fun.  Here are a few side by side comparisons:

Yes Person           No Person

  Open Minded                           Close Minded

  Positive Stance                        Negative Stance

  Glass 1/2 Full                           Glass 1/2 Empty

  Joyful                                         Grumpy

  Approachable                          Unapproachable

  Flexible                                      Rigid

 Content                                      Complainer


Honestly…I’m Acting Like a Grumpy No Person 🙁 

After looking at the list above…the YES person sounds like a much better life attitude.  But why then do I identify more with the NO person?  Here are a few of my reasons, can you identify with any of these?

  1. Life is overwhelming and there is too much on my plate.  The thought of one more item makes “no” my go-to, self-protective place.
  2. No makes me feel in control of something…at least my answer.  That’s about all I have control over anyway (LOL).
  3. I have a overly packed calendar to keep and my perfectionistic personality is threatened by changes that will detour me from all things I said yes to.
  4. I have goals and plans that I don’t feel others honor…so my “no” keeps them in check so I won’t get distracted or off track (wow, was that too honest!!).

In a nutshell, my “no” stance makes me feel in control of life at a time when life feels out-of-control.  However, it is foolishness!  I am no more in control than before I said “no”.  The one difference is in my attitude.  And my attitude stinks!

“You cannot live on a diet of no.  We were made for yes.”  John Ortberg

There Are Times to Say NO

Absolutely there are times to say no.  It is an appropriate response to many situations. Taking time to seek God and review priorities is wise.  Saying no isn’t a bad response.  Having boundaries is smart and no one can say yes to everything.

It is the attitude of being closed minded, grumpy and inflexible that is the difference between a yes and no person not necessarily the answer yes or no.

It’s Not About the Answer Yes or No…It’s the Attitude of the Heart

Today I want to change!  I want to have the joyful attitude of a YES person.  Renewing my mind and attitude is the first step.  Remembering that God said YES to me first by giving me new life in Christ and then, accepting me just as I am, sin and all.  In life, I will need to say no to many things, but I don’t need to carry an attitude of no.  God chose me (and you too!) and we can choose our attitude.

“Instead, there must be a spiritual renewal of your thoughts and attitudes. You must display a new nature because you are a new person, created in God’s likeness- righteous, holy and true.” Ephesians 4:23-24

Question:  What attitude do you carry in your heart…a yes or no attitude?  Remember it’s not about that answer yes or no, but the attitude.  

Sincerely with Hugs,



For more on making decisions see Struggling to Walk Through Open Doors and Living with the Regret of a Closed Door.

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  1. Katie | 3rd Nov 17

    It most definitely is the attitude of the heart, I totally agree! Seeking God about every decision is so important, yet it’s so easy to have a knee jerk response. You pose great questions to ask ourselves!

    • JJ | 3rd Nov 17

      Thank you Katie! Knee jerk response…perfectly said!

  2. Jennifer Turney | 3rd Nov 17

    I identified with everything and it’s hard to admit being a No person. It’s all something to consider and change for the better. Thank you!

    • JJ | 3rd Nov 17

      So glad I am not alone!

  3. Susan Evans | 7th Nov 17

    I’ve always tried to be a yes person to my kids. I don’t say no unless there is a compelling reason for saying no. This way my kids know that when I do say no, I’ve said yes so many times that they don’t need to rebel or say something isn’t fair.

    • JJ | 7th Nov 17

      My grandmother used to say only say NO when you really have to!

  4. Aryn the Libraryan | 7th Nov 17

    It varies. Sometimes I absolutely carry a yes. Other times (involving the 4 year old usually!) No just rolls out!

    • JJ | 7th Nov 17

      LOL kids have a way of bringing out the NO in anyone!

  5. Alice Mills | 7th Nov 17

    What a fun encouraging post. I vacillate between the two, like most people. I think believing that the universe and God are saying yes! is really important.

    • JJ | 7th Nov 17

      Thank you! God’s yes and our response back is the area we cannot afford to say No,

  6. Heather Hart | 7th Nov 17

    This ==> “It’s Not About the Answer Yes or No…It’s the Attitude of the Heart” Amen, amen, amen!! We have to make mindful decisions and make them for the glory of God. There’s a balance somewhere between yes and no that is healthy and helpful for all involved.

    • JJ | 9th Nov 17

      Amen!!! 🙂

  7. Julie | 7th Nov 17

    Yikes, I’m more of a “no” person! I would like to be a yes person, I guess I have some work to do in tandem with God! Great post!

    • JJ | 9th Nov 17

      Thanks so much! It is hard to honest with ourselves:)

  8. Melissa | 8th Nov 17

    I actually have had to learn to be a bit better about saying ‘no’. I was too much of a people-pleaser and wasn’t taking enough time for God, rest, and myself. Now it’s more of a balance and checking with God on what He wants me to be doing or passing on.

    • JJ | 9th Nov 17

      You are not alone. I think either way its about attitude not the yes or no. 🙂

  9. Emily | The Multitasking Mom | 8th Nov 17

    I would say I have the opposite issue. I want to say yes to everything and then have to reign it in because there just aren’t enough hours in the day

    • JJ | 9th Nov 17

      I used to be that way and then I swung the opposite way…LOL.

  10. Ryan | 8th Nov 17

    I think you need to have a good mix at times. Not saying be a grump, but you are correct about having to say no at times.

    • JJ | 9th Nov 17


  11. Shell | 8th Nov 17

    I absolutely love the positive energy of your post! I think I tend to mostly be a yes person…

    • JJ | 9th Nov 17

      Yeah! I love the attitude of a yes person 🙂

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