Are you finding it hard to say yes? Before anyone can complete a question…is the little yet powerful two-letter word “no” already on the tip of your tongue? More often than not, do you hear yourself saying no? Why? What’s behind the instant “no” that’s keeping you from being a “yes” person?
My pastor is currently teaching a series on the 7 most powerful words, and you guessed it…YES is one of them. Some of the most important questions you will answer in life need a yes:
I felt totally conviction when I realized my go to word is “no”. It doesn’t matter what is being asked or by whom…I just gravitate toward “no”. It was time to ask myself why? Why do I carry a “no” in my heart?
I may change my mind after considering what is being asked, but it is the attitude of “no” that concerns me.
Speaking from experience, being a “no” person is no fun. Here are a few side by side comparisons:
Open Minded Close Minded
Positive Stance Negative Stance
Glass 1/2 Full Glass 1/2 Empty
After looking at the list above…the YES person sounds like a much better life attitude. But why then do I identify more with the NO person? Here are a few of my reasons, can you identify with any of these?
In a nutshell, my “no” stance makes me feel in control of life at a time when life feels out-of-control. However, it is foolishness! I am no more in control than before I said “no”. The one difference is in my attitude. And my attitude stinks!
“You cannot live on a diet of no. We were made for yes.” John Ortberg
Absolutely there are times to say no. It is an appropriate response to many situations. Taking time to seek God and review priorities is wise. Saying no isn’t a bad response. Having boundaries is smart and no one can say yes to everything.
It is the attitude of being closed minded, grumpy and inflexible that is the difference between a yes and no person not necessarily the answer yes or no.
Today I want to change! I want to have the joyful attitude of a YES person. Renewing my mind and attitude is the first step. Remembering that God said YES to me first by giving me new life in Christ and then, accepting me just as I am, sin and all. In life, I will need to say no to many things, but I don’t need to carry an attitude of no. God chose me (and you too!) and we can choose our attitude.
“Instead, there must be a spiritual renewal of your thoughts and attitudes. You must display a new nature because you are a new person, created in God’s likeness- righteous, holy and true.” Ephesians 4:23-24